Handling Change With Flexibility
Students learn to use a reframe statement when unexpected change happens and proceed with the new plan, diagnose what's not working and choose a different approach independently, try a task in a new format and engage with the first stage, adapt their role when the group needs something different, and compare how they handled a change this week to past changes, naming one improvement.
Lesson Overview
What students will be able to do after this lesson: Students will be able to use a reframe statement when unexpected change happens and proceed with the new plan, independently diagnose what is not working and switch to a different approach, try tasks in new formats and adapt their role when a group needs it, and name one specific improvement in how they handled change compared to a past experience.
Skill segments at a glance:
| Segment | Segment name | Primary standards |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | Reframing Change and Diagnosing What’s Not Working | SM-ADP-3-1 · SM-ADP-3-2 |
| 2 | Trying New Ways — On Your Own and in a Group | SM-ADP-3-3 · SM-ADP-3-4 |
| 3 | Seeing How You’re Getting Better at Change | SM-ADP-3-5 |
Supporting standards reinforced:
| Code | Why it connects |
|---|---|
| SM-REG-3-2 | When unexpected change brings an uncomfortable feeling, students draw on their regulation toolkit to choose the right response for the intensity and setting — the reframe works alongside, not instead of, regulation |
| SM-PER-3-2 | When the new approach feels harder than the original plan, students use growth language independently to keep going — flexibility and perseverance work in tandem when the adapted path is more demanding |
| RDM-PRB-3-2 | Diagnosing what is not working (SM-ADP-3-2) naturally activates generating multiple possible alternatives — students who generate three distinct options before choosing are practicing both skills at once |
Key Vocabulary
- reframe — changing how you think about a situation so it feels more manageable; saying something specific to yourself before you act
- diagnose — figuring out exactly what is not working before you try something different
- flexibility — being able to adjust how you think, what you do, or the role you play when plans, formats, or situations change
Materials
- Whiteboard or chart paper and markers
- Before the week begins: Post your unit anchor chart and I Can Statement where students can see them — you’ll reference both throughout the week.
How this lesson is structured: Each skill segment below has an I Do (teacher models the skill with a realistic scenario) and a We Do (class practices together with your guidance). Independent practice — the You Do — lives in the practice resources that go alongside this lesson.
What Students Need Before This Lesson
- What’s inside
- What students should already be able to do
- Helpful to have in place
- 3 quick set-ups before the I DoReframing is not the same as pretending you’re fine · Diagnosing is different from complaining — and different from guessing · The trigger for adapting your group role is the group’s need — not your preference
- Rescue planIf students are significantly behind
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Introducing the Skill
- What’s inside
- Opening hook
- What we’re learning
- Why it matters
- Core sentence frameThe frame students use all week
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Reframing Change and Diagnosing What’s Not Working
- What’s inside
- I do: 4 teacher modelsTextbook reframe (SM-ADP-3-1): what it looks like when the reframe comes before the action · Wrong version → fix: what it looks like when the reframe is skipped · Diagnose and switch (SM-ADP-3-2): naming what’s not working before you try something new · Both skills in sequence: reframe when the change arrives, then diagnose when the new plan hits trouble
- We do: 5 guided scenariosWith sentence frames, pacing notes and what to watch for
- Coaching in the momentWhat to say when students get stuck
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Trying New Ways — On Your Own and in a Group
- What’s inside
- I do: 4 teacher modelsSM-ADP-3-3: engaging with a new format without extensive coaxing · SM-ADP-3-4: adapting your group role because the group needs it · Wrong version of SM-ADP-3-4: switching for personal preference instead of group need · Non-conflict scenario: using SM-ADP-3-3 in an ordinary moment
- We do: 4 guided scenariosWith sentence frames, pacing notes and what to watch for
- Coaching in the momentWhat to say when students get stuck
This section opens when Grade 3 launches.
Seeing How You’re Getting Better at Change
- What’s inside
- I do: 3 teacher modelsSM-ADP-3-5: genuine comparison with a specific named improvement · Wrong version → fix: the vague self-assessment · Non-conflict comparison: finding growth in an ordinary change
- We do: 4 guided scenariosWith sentence frames, pacing notes and what to watch for
- Coaching in the momentWhat to say when students get stuck
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Closing the Week
- What’s inside
- 3 partner-share roundsOne for each segment, with the frame students say together
- Closing prompt
- Round 1 — Segment 1
- Round 2 — Segment 2
- Round 3 — Segment 3
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Practice for every skill segment
Each lesson comes with independent practice — the “you do” — for each of its 3 skill segments, in print and digital.
Printable practice
Ready-to-copy practice pages for each segment.
- View and print in your browser
- Answer keys for quick checking
Digital activities
Share one link — students open it on any device, and you see their answers.
- Works on Chromebooks, tablets and phones
- Students just type their name to start
While you wait: from the SEL Resource Library
Self-Management resources for Grade 3, ready to use today.
